Friday, August 11, 2006

The Gift of a Mother's Embrace

My gift certificate from the baby shower had me perusing websites for baby items. I'm not the type to go crazy and buy tons of baby things (this is baby number nine after all, I just can't conjor up that kind of frenzy or energy). Even though we do family bed, my husband thinks we should get a crib and a small chest of drawers. I'm okay with that. I've already picked out a sling. Clothes will come from gifts and hand-me-downs. A small stroller would be nice, and a car seat, essential. I'd much rather have story books than toys. After that, I really don't want a bunch of baby stuff filing our already small crowded house. I expect to acquire most of this at my two planned showers, and then will use the gift certificate to purchase what I did not receive as gifts. There will be no nursery (no room for one), the crib and drawers will go in a corner of our bedroom. When the 18 year old moves out in a year or so, the 15 year old will get his room, the 10 year old will take the 15 year olds' room and the new baby will move in with the 8 year old into the 10 year old's former space. (The 12 year old loves her room and has no plans to move.) No baby bathtub (I hate those things). I bathe all my babies in the bathroom sink, its the perfect size and height and so practical (it comes with spigots). No changing table (come on, that's what our bed is for!). No playpen, I'll be wearing the baby or someone will be holding him or her. No high chair (not yet). No swings, baby seats, or walkers (all mother substitutes, and they take up a ton or space). If I need the baby held and I can't do it, someone else in the house can. They are small and portable for such a short time. I saw my grandson yesterday at the office, (he came for his chiropractic appointment), and he is so rolly polly and big. He nursed twice while he was there. It reminded me how fast they grow. I want to relish the time with my baby and hold him or her all I can. Thats the kind of luxurious gift that babies really want.