I'm reflecting on life as I sit at the computer and watch my toddler feed his oatmeal to the dog. I heard a terrific speaker, Dr. Mom, at a luncheon earlier this week talk about life balance. How when we take something on, we should let something else go so that we don't get overloaded. I know that my life needs an overhaul to support my weight loss goals. While I don't know yet what I'll decide- its nice to have choices. It's good to be in the decision making role. I'm happily muching on an apple bran muffin and glass of water (I've given up drinking milk), and thinking about how this relates to birth. How much of her decision making role does a woman give up when she enters the hospital to birth. Yes, healthcare providers expect you to make decisions- the ones they want you to. Woe to those who desire something contrary to standard protocol. But if you can't say no, does your yes really have much value?